I have been following all the advice I've found here at J4L, and it has been working wonders!  Today though, I got an e-mail from my sweetheart or whatever he is right now, inviting me and all of our good friends to get together for a weekend in the Hamptons later in the summer.  He is there for the weekend right now, and as I read his description of everything and all the 'fun'  I just can't seem to shake this feeling of fear and disgust that he might be with other women this weekend.  I know we're supposedly broken up, but I have absolute faith that God is going to bring us back together.  I normally brush of any such thoughts, no matter how much they bother me and I've tried praying this one away, but it won't leave me!  I honestly believe that no matter what happens, the Lord is going to bring us back together, but I just feel sick to my stomach at the possibility.  How do I deal with this? -

 

Dear Dealing With It,

God has blessed us with an amazing gift called intuition, sometimes referred to as "gut feeling". I like to call it my God feeling. It is the place in the depth of your soul..a tickle in your belly that tells you that something is right or wrong. When we master listening to this feeling, we have mastered hearing God. You are very right in being cautious. If your gut feeling is telling you to stay away..then stay away. There is a reason for it. Listen to it. Maybe your absence is one way of making your sweetie realize how much he misses you and it may make him wonder why you aren't dropping everything to be there. Ever hear the saying "You want what you can't have?" - Listen to your intuition and no matter how hard it is, if your gut is telling you not to go, then don't.  I still love you and support you no matter what you choose and I'm proud of you for being able to recognize the pull in your heart and for being brave enough to stand back if you need too. YOU are in for a MIGHTY blessing! 

P.S. - This get together is still a ways off...if he know you aren't going to attend, it may make him realize what HE has lost.