I came across your website
and was hopeful that someone could offer me advice in
overcoming my heart break.
Last year, I got to know
a dentist as I need to remove my wisdom tooth. He was a warm,
kind and gentle man. I had a good impression of him.
The second time I saw him to
remove my stitches. It was then when he asked me what I am
doing during the weekend. I told him that I was free and he
did not probe further. It sent my heart into flutters. Was he
interested to know me more?
I went to visit him several
times. He seemed to enjoy talking to me, we chatted and I
found that that he is still single. The problem with him is
that each time I met him for an appointment, he did not try to
ask me out again.
Recently, I found out that he
went abroad to further his studies and he will be gone for 3
years. The bombshell dropped when I found out from his nurse
that he is actually married. I was upset because it was
unexpected and I could handle the shock. I liked him very much
and hoped that it could have blossomed into something more.
I do need advice to help me
to widen my perspective of this problem. Could you help me?
Despair
Dear Despair,
Hello and thank you for writing
in to me. I am sorry your heart is aching right now. Based on
what you are telling me it seems as if you may have
misinterpreted your dentists intentions. My doctor always
makes small talk during our visits and often asks what my
plans are, etc. It is very easy to take this as a sign of
interest. It sounds like your dentist did the appropriate
thing in NOT pursuing a relationship, it would be unethical
for him to do so. At least here in the states.
I know how it hurts to like
someone, for them to be part of our daydreams and the reason
our hearts flutter only to find out it isn't going to be. I do
believe that this will pass for you and with a heart that is
capable of loving as much as yours seems to be, God is going
to bless you with the perfect partner. One you can call your
own and one that you will have NO WONDER about his
intentions. I pray your angel will come soon.
