If you can think it, feel it, utter it, cry it, yell it or moan it...it's a form of prayer. Sometimes we hurt so bad we don't know what to pray or how to pray it, in these cases it's best to just say it the way you feel it OR allow your soul to do the talking for you. One required element for prayer is to get to know The One who gives our prayers credibility. Jesus Christ.

Who is Jesus? First and foremost, Jesus is the only begotten son of God. Some people claim He's a great teacher, others think He's a prophet and we at Just4Ladies hail Him as our Lord and Savior. The resurrection of Jesus is what makes Christianity unique. In fact the validity of Christianity hinges on the proof of the resurrection of Jesus. It was through His death on the cross that we enjoy God's precious gift's of love and forgiveness.

A successful prayer life is dependent on our acceptance, understanding and appreciation of His death and resurrection. The Bible says that God so loved the world that He sacrificed His only begotten son, and whoever believes in Him will not parish. (John 3:16) Jesus  told us that in order for our prayers to reach Our Heavenly Father they had to go through Him. Knowing the real Jesus and not the historical Jesus is important. Many new Christians feel embarrassed or like they may be viewed as fanatics if they talk about Jesus. These feelings stem from the bad works of hypocrites. The most important part of step two is getting to know Jesus.

There are other parts of prayer that are important. One is the required reading. As with anything you are learning it is so much easier of you have a book, prayer is no different and you have a fantastic book to help you through and help you learn. It's called the Bible and everything God promises us is contained within the pages as well as the rules we humans need to follow in order to receive those promises.

In addition to the promises and rules there are tools to help you deal with the bad things you are feeling and will experience along the way. Once you have surrendered the situation to God you are a candidate for spiritual warfare. We know that there is good and evil in this world, the devil will try everything to get you to give up including depression, fear they aren't coming back, the infamous "what if" attacks, sorrow, and when you aren't properly prepared to deal with these attacks you will find yourself on an emotional roller coaster ride that will cripple you at times. In order to move through the valleys swiftly and steadily you have to be prepared to ward off the attacks. The Bible holds the tools.

At this point in your journey you are seriously wondering if God wears a watch. A few weeks or months may have passed and you may not see visible signs of anything happening, it may even look like things are getting worse. Trust in God is crucial and the best way to develop trust is to read the Bible, He never goes back on His promises. Knowing that, it should be easier for you to ignore the attacks and just believe that God is working the situation out for the best. Sometimes miracles take longer to manifest, especially if they involve another person. Although you have surrendered your free-will to God, the other person may not have. These things take time and everything comes together for the good in His perfect time.

Find a quiet spot to pray, talk to God like He is standing in the same room with you. More than anything He desires a relationship with you, once you seek His face His hand will come naturally.

** This section of A Course in heartbreak contains over 50 pages of direction on how to find the promises set forth in the Bible regarding your heartbreak and the tools needed for a successful prayer life and relationship with God. Developing a relationship with God is easier than you think.

The above is an excerpt  from "A Course in Heartbreak" - Other lessons in Step Two of the course include:

A Course in Heartbreak is almost 200 pages of lessons designed to help you avoid the pitfalls of standing for a broken relationship. The Course is designed to guide you through the lessons God is teaching you without getting caught in the traps the devil sets for us. All material found on the Seven Steps pages are Copyright 2003 HeartbreakUniversity.org©. Copyright registration is on file with the United States Library of Congress. No material may be copied, shared or sold without the express written permission of the author and/or her agent.