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Our knees hit the floor in many different ways.
The most devastating is when it involves our
hearts. There is no worse feeling in the world
than loving someone and having them reject that
love. Having your love rejected, a threat of
divorce, separation and breakup or any form of
losing the person you love feels a lot like
losing them to death. You are experiencing the
same emotions better known as grief. If it hurts
to breathe right now and you are desperate for
help, your knees are in the best place they can
be. For it is in this position that we are most
vulnerable and humble, if there's ever a time
when we are embraced in God's loving arms it is
right now when our hearts are shattered.
With loss of love comes shock, sorrow, anger and
sometimes guilt. No amount of knowledge can
prepare you for the loss of someone you love.
Grief is the most intense and enduring emotion
we can experience and there is no quick fix the
only way out of this mist shrouded pain is
through it. The good news is that this is the
first ingredient you need for your miracle.
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"There can be no knowledge without
emotion. We may be aware of a truth,
yet until we have felt its force, it
is not ours. To the cognition of the
brain must be added the experience
of the soul." -
Arnold Bennett (1867-1931) |
Step one is designed to help you stabilize
yourself and prepare yourself for the journey
towards your miracle. Part of stabilizing
requires you to accept the fact that they are
not with you presently, but in choosing to look
to God for the answer you are now one step
closer to a miracle. The one thing you can do is
decide that you are going to give this problem
to God, NOTHING is larger than God not even the
situation you are dealing with. Take a picture
of your lost love and place it in your Bible.
(Surrender them to God) You can place it on the
same page as your favorite scripture if you have
one. There, it is wrapped in His wonderful
promises that He will make this heart of your
whole again.
Next you should put away all other reminders of
your lost. Avoid situations, places, songs, etc.
that you shared or that remind you of that
person. By removing these things from constant
sight you will be able to better focus on the
miracle your seeking and what you need to
accomplish it as well as The One who gives them
instead of reminders of the pain and anguish
associated with the separation.
Moving "Forward" vs. Moving "on"...
We
are often told by well-wishers and friends to
"forget about them and move on", a New Yorker
would tell you to "forgettaboutit". Where is
"on" and how does one get there? On is a scary
place and promises to be lonely as well, there
has to be more to love than "on". I have found
that when we look to God for the answer to our
prayer of restoration or true love he will move
us "forward". Forward and On are two totally
different places. "On" moves you into the future
but rooted in pain, "forward" moves you into the
future and gives you hope and best of all a new
way of seeing things and ultimately a
miracle...Forward changes life the way you know
it. I'll take "forward" over "on" any day.
If
you are believing in a miracle then you have the
slightest bit of faith. Faith isn't something we
get on our own we are blessed with it (Romans
12:3). When you cry out to God for help and you
feel even the tiniest ray of hope that
everything is going to be OK, that is faith. The
seed has been planted. There are some pretty
powerful promises that accompany faith, one of
them is that "Faith is the substance of
things hoped for" (Hebrews 11:1) Faith is
knowing we have something even though we can't
see it with our eyes, if you have felt the
stirrings of faith deep in your soul then
rejoice knowing that God, the author of faith,
is basically letting you know that what you
sincerely hope for is as good as yours. All
you need to do is complete the journey He has
mapped out for you.
Before you can begin your journey towards your
miracle you have to stabilize or be on firm
footing with your decision. A prayer for help
even if your not sure how to pray will result in
peace and strength you didn't know you had.
Simply close you eyes and with the sincerest of
heart whisper:
"Dear God, please help me get through today,
please touch my heart and let me feel you close,
give me peace Father as I embark on this journey
to meet and know You."
The above is
an excerpt from "A
Course in Heartbreak"
- Other lessons in Step One of the course
include:
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- Realizing what the "broken" in broken
heart really means. |
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- Finding an escape for the never ending
pain |
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- Gardening 101 - Planting the first
small seeds of faith |
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- Faith building promises from The
Creator |
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- Avoiding the traps we set for
ourselves |
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- Blank Sheet Method - A way to prevent
a set back |
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- Talking to God - The start of a
beautiful relationship |
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- The Will of God - Why we fear it |
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- Dear god Why? |
A Course in Heartbreak is almost 200 pages of
lessons designed to help you avoid the pitfalls
of standing for a broken relationship. The
Course is designed to guide you through the
lessons God is teaching you without getting
caught in the traps the devil sets for us. All
material found on the Seven Steps pages are
Copyright 2003 HeartbreakUniversity.org©.
Copyright registration is on file with the
United States Library of Congress. No material
may be copied, shared or sold without the
express written permission of the author and/or
her agent.
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