You've
heard the saying "Do as I say, not as I do!"
You may have even used it a time or two
when dealing with your own children; but
trying to set the right example for our
kids, especially teens or tweens
(pre-teens) can be a tough thing to do
when you're dealing with heartbreak.
Rasing well-balanced, good, Chrsitian
kids in today's world is a challange
that can be frustrating and difficult at
best without the issue of heartbreak
mixed in. Add a crises like divorce or
seperation and it turns the heat up
another thousand degrees.
This message is mostly for mom's since
it is the mom that takes on the burden
of raising her children while standing
for marriage restoration. It takes a
strong woman to raise good kids these
days under normal circumstances; but it
takes a Hercules woman to raise them
right when their standing for
restoration at the same time.
It's so easy to wallow in your misery
and keep your focus on the one who
abandon you; but this can prove to be
disasterous for the kids who are caught
up in the mix. When mom is so focused
inward on her broken heart and how to
resolve the issue that caused it, her
kids are still needing the attention and
effort that they received prior to the
heartbreak. To what lengths will the
kids go to get the love and attention
they need? You'd be surprised!
If you're praying for restoration and
your focus is totally on the one who
broke your heart you are possibly
blocking the blessings that The Lord has
in store for you and as with ALL things
that you call the Lord into the
spiritual process and end result have to
glorify Him.
If you are telling your kids that they
can't go out with people who treat them
bad but you yourself are settling for
someone who treats you bad you're
setting an example. They aren't going to
listen to what you might have to say on
the issue because seeing you do what you
tell them not to do is voiding the
credibility of your guidance and
direction.
If your kids see that you are taking a
stand in faith, living your life right,
or at least trying your best to do so,
they are going follow the example you're
setting for them - it may take some
enforcing; but they'll folllow. This
especially applies to our little girls
who are already exposed to inaccurate
messages of what "love" really is
through the media, their friends,
especially their friends and other
avenues. Without love and supoort and
proper guidance on this most critical
issue, your little girls are going to
choose men that have no respect for them
and if I've said it once, I've said it a
million times, the responsibility for
how your kids turn out rests COMPLTELY
on you!
No man, woman, husband or boyfriend is
worth sacrificing your kids for. If you
are pinning for a man who has no respect
for you you're letting your little guys
think it is OK to treat good women
disrespectfully. How else will they know
any different but by the example they
are seeing from you?
The Lord tells us to "Train up a child
in the way he should go and he will not
depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6) This is
a command that way to many parents have
totally side-stepped. Parents have given
into the pressures and temptations
facing our kids today or have totally
abandon their ultimate responsibility to
make sure their kids are raised properly
while they nurse a broken broken heart.
A lot of moms standing for their
marriage are too tired, too hurt, or to
emotionally bankrupt to deal with the
needs of their kids. This is going to
end up costing you and your kids a price
far greater than you are willing or able
to pay. The pieces of the family puzzle
have got to include everyone member of
the family unit, not just the one who
has abandon you or broken your heart.
Don't tell your kids how they should do
it...SHOW THEM! Lead your family by
example! Even if dad has decided to take
a vacation in sin-city, you can still
set a good, Godly example for your kids!
In order for your restored family to be
successful all members of the family
have to be on the same spirtual page.
This is what God would have you do!
If you've allowed them to slide on the
rules up until now, realize that it is
never too late to start setting
boundries and rebuilding your family
unit one member at ta time. Be
consistent in your efforts and be
prepared for the resistance. Educate
yourself and find support to help you
enforce this new way of life that is
getting to a blessing ready point. You
can almost always find support at your
local church and if you don't have a
church e-mail me at
shell@just4ladies.com and I'll help
you find the support you need.
I love and care about each and everyone
of you and I know some of you are
dealing with horrific heartbreak
situations; but no human on earth is
worth sacrificing the souls of your
children. While you wait on God, pray
for His help in raising your kids the
way HE would have you raise them. The
end results will be magnificent and you
will surely glorify God by being one of
those families people long to be like.
THIS is how we serve God without even
realizing we're serving!
Until we meet again....Simply Believe!
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