This past weekend my friends brother died. He was a fairly
young man, only 45 and had been at the VA hospital for medical
treatment for several months. My friend was due to pick Tim up
on Saturday but sadly, he passed away just before she arrived.
It was unexpected and a total shock to his family and friends.
His birthday was the next day. I was asked by the family to
design a video memorial of Tim's life using pictures the
family provided and it was an honor to be chosen to for this
very special task.
The family brought me all the pictures they could find and
told me which song they wanted to use and I set about creating
his video memorial; but something happened while I was
creating. I had a major revelation or a "heavy reavy" as my
friend and mentor Sandra always says.
I realized that I had to memorialize this man's entire life
in four-minutes and forty seconds. In 42 slides I had to tell
a complete story, in pictures, of what Tim had accomplished,
what he stood for, what he loved, and what was most important
to him; and in doing so I realized that each slide I built for
the presentation represented a time in his life that was
important enough to photograph and share with those who had
come to say goodbye to him.
I sat quietly gazing out my "writing window" wondering
which slides my loved ones were going to use for me when it
was my time to go Home. Would there be enough pictures and
worthy accomplishments to fill my 42 slides? Are there enough
to fill yours?
After the service I came home and thought about the
"slides" of my life and that of my loved ones. I can remember
a time when the way I lived my life was not worthy of mention
let alone putting in my memorial slides; but then God reached
down and gave me a new life and a new purpose. Instead of
abandoning my self-respect and my responsibilities because of
my broken heart I embraced them and perfected them and set
about helping others do the same. I redesigned the world's
first ladies only porn site into the world's first heartbreak
community and I spent the next eight years trying to make a
difference in the lives of countless women's lives to help
them through the heartbreak that all too often causes good
women to abandon everything for the sake of mislabeled "love".
I want my slides to reflect God's touch on my life when the
time comes to reflect on all I've done and not done. I want to
know that when I take my last breathe I will be at peace
knowing I hugged enough, loved enough, helped enough and
sacrificed enough to have made those slides worthy of showing.
I don't want to be remembered for what I did, I want to be
remembered for what God did through me!
How are you designing the slides of your life? Are you so
focused on the one who hurt you that you're letting precious
time slip by you with nothing worthy to fill those slides?
What are you allowing God to do through you? If the answer to
that question is "nothing" then it's time to get busy!
No one understands the crippling pain of a broken heart
better than I do. I know what it's like to get out of bed each
day and not be able to open your eyes without thinking about
the one who hurt you and I also know what it's like to not
want to do anything but remember the good times and worry if
he or she will ever come back. I know what it's like to spend
your entire day praying and crying out to God to send them
home while your world falls apart around you. I understand
what it's like to feel like you can't be a mother or a friend
or a productive member of a team whether it is the family
team, work team or church team - our kids suffer from our
heartbreak as much, if not worse than we do! While we're
focusing on the one who hurt us, we're neglecting the
emotional and sometimes physical needs they have and in this
day and age it is all too common to read stories in the media
about women who have abandon their own children to chase after
"love". If you're in that situation the only way you will ever
find the fulfillment you are seeking is through Jesus Christ.
No man can fill a spot that even your children can't fill.
Look up! That's where you'll find the complete love and peace
your chasing after. If you know Jesus but really don't KNOW
Him, please e-mail me and I'll help you meet the Jesus that
mends and restores and revives!
Once you've truly given your broken heart to God - all of
it - you can begin to build the slides of your life that will
count. The most important slide is the slide of your
testimony. Your testimony can only be effective if it contains
the elements of your relationship with God. This includes
trusting God while you wait on Him to fix your situation, what
you do and accomplish for HIM while you wait on Him to fix
your life and the blessings that come from combining all of
the above. Your testimony is the greatest slide in your
presentation and the things that are accomplished from the
foundation of your testimony, when followed through, provide a
lifetime of slides that reflect the life you live for the
Lord! This is how God works THROUGH you to save others! What
an incredible way to end it!
Are you tired of counting the seconds of each and every day
while waiting for the "answer" or even a sign of the answer to
come? What could you be doing with that precious time? Can you
go about God's business while trusting your business will get
done when you give it to Him? Even though the enemy may prompt
fear and doubt, God promises that when you cast your cares
upon Him HE WILL GIVE YOU PEACE! The peace He gives contains
the element of trust that tells us HE WILL COME THROUGH and
your answer, when it arrives will be PERFECT. I guarantee it!
Try it, you'll see for yourself that it works.
Take a moment today to reflect on the "slides" of your life
to this point. How can you fill those future slides with
meaningful and worthy messages that will cause you to be
remembered for what God did THROUGH you? I am here ANYTIME you
need me! I'll help you build your slides one at a time. Until
we meet again - Simply believe!
